tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post2054836756734081651..comments2023-10-20T16:03:03.157+01:00Comments on Devouring Texts: The Little Stranger: A Thing.Laurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-23962912373155033872012-09-25T18:09:18.255+01:002012-09-25T18:09:18.255+01:00Ha, yes, totally not me but perhaps this is a cert...Ha, yes, totally not me but perhaps this is a certain type of woman? Or indeed man. I know guys who bitch a lot about their friends too. It's not even necessarily a bad thing, I just don't get it myself. But maybe not everyone is lucky enough to have the wonderful friends that I do :-)Nose in a bookhttp://www.noseinabook.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-19766464673620886932012-09-11T12:30:23.270+01:002012-09-11T12:30:23.270+01:00Argh, you should readalong with us! I'm gonna ...Argh, you should readalong with us! I'm gonna break it down into easy weekly installments...<br /><br />Anyway, yeah. Hanging out with people you don't like never really seems like a good idea to me. But obviously some people do it. Or they do in fiction, at least!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-37887061418433357812012-09-11T12:00:27.174+01:002012-09-11T12:00:27.174+01:00Hi! I just discovered your blog via Trish's BB...Hi! I just discovered your blog via Trish's BBAW post and I love your style. I 've noticed that too - the high school version of firendship, like in Mean Girls, going on through entire lifetimes. I generally don't associate with people who make a habit of bitching about others because I always wonder what they're saying about ME when I'm not there!Joannahttp://www.createyourworld.menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-69881333313048991482012-09-11T05:40:34.127+01:002012-09-11T05:40:34.127+01:00I *almost* joined this read-a-long but then decide...I *almost* joined this read-a-long but then decided I'd already bitten off more than I can chew recently. But I still want to read this book! <br /><br />There's no sense in hanging out with people that you don't genuinely want to be with right? There are those circumstances when you are stuck but mostly we have a choice :)The Relentless Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07059240496186812005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-46509647836969092692012-09-10T20:00:44.217+01:002012-09-10T20:00:44.217+01:00Exactly! Like in Julie and Julia, for example, Jul...Exactly! Like in Julie and Julia, for example, Julie moans about like HAVING to go to this lunch, but she didn't HAVE to go, you know? You HAD to work with those people. It just irritates me that this has become a 'thing women do' like in fiction. Cause who does that?!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-80987475913653040372012-09-10T19:59:30.612+01:002012-09-10T19:59:30.612+01:00I think that here, we basically all have the same ...I think that here, we basically all have the same opinion but we're all saying it in different ways, and frankly, I'm getting confused. So basically... Don't hang with people you actively hate. But everyone else is fine. Yes?Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-21089078172004133662012-09-10T19:10:16.720+01:002012-09-10T19:10:16.720+01:00I agree with you. My friends are my friends becaus...I agree with you. My friends are my friends because I love them! However, I did have this sort of interaction with a few co-workers over the years. But I think that's different. I had to be around them. It wasn't a matter of choice. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10826716134008160506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-87355937785858046152012-09-10T18:34:59.856+01:002012-09-10T18:34:59.856+01:00Well I think having levels of friends is different...Well I think having levels of friends is different than being like "Oh THAT person? No I just pretend to like them. I actually can't stand them." Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456600806188531803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-44088881658724578852012-09-10T18:23:45.389+01:002012-09-10T18:23:45.389+01:00I'm just SAYIN' that you can have people y...I'm just SAYIN' that you can have people you do things with whom you're not necessarily like "I would call you if my car got stolen" but you're good with hanging out and doing activities with. Different LEVELS of friends.Reading Rambohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12614467198216577755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-91935695517988202502012-09-10T16:52:20.336+01:002012-09-10T16:52:20.336+01:00Hmmm. Hm. I think you're ok. Maybe. But find b...Hmmm. Hm. I think you're ok. Maybe. But find better friends, yeah?Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-37637482246377639782012-09-10T15:37:53.455+01:002012-09-10T15:37:53.455+01:00I don't HATE them, but sometimes I don't l...I don't HATE them, but sometimes I don't like them.Reading Rambohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12614467198216577755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-45193966863325079722012-09-10T14:58:26.129+01:002012-09-10T14:58:26.129+01:00But you don't like HATE them, right? Like, if ...But you don't like HATE them, right? Like, if you hated them you wouldn't want to, and so wouldn't see them? I don't think everyone has to be your BEST friend, but... I also don't think people should hang with people they hate!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-1611981871580395342012-09-10T14:56:04.079+01:002012-09-10T14:56:04.079+01:00Exactly, I just don't... Just don't hang o...Exactly, I just don't... Just don't hang out with them! I have been slightly re-thinking the bit in TLS, just because they re-met at a party and so hung out, but she knew other people there and just could have been like 'sorry, gotta go hang with the dude who brought me.' <br /><br />Blurring the lines of reality and fiction here, I realise! But yeah, fakeness and having friends you hate=bad bad bad!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-11514264898473513462012-09-10T14:53:46.265+01:002012-09-10T14:53:46.265+01:00Oh yeah, I don't necessarily think that you sh...Oh yeah, I don't necessarily think that you should be like 'omg, you're perfect, let's never disagree about anything' cause that shit's BORING, but in a general way, they're your *friends* not, like, people you sort of secretly hate.<br /><br />I feel like that situation is really typical of like a meeting new people thing, and as people get to know each other they group off and you know who you can really be friends with, you know? I don't know if men feel the same pressure though... Maybe they're better at just casual conversation without worrying about where they stand with other people? And yet they still know who their friends are? In a totally generalising way, of course.<br /><br />I don't know, people are complex!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-16163266491769023912012-09-10T14:51:28.157+01:002012-09-10T14:51:28.157+01:00It depends on if they were mean that evening or no...It depends on if they were mean that evening or not.Reading Rambohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12614467198216577755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-5942092467796501162012-09-10T14:49:18.615+01:002012-09-10T14:49:18.615+01:00Exactly! I feel like, especially because I'm l...Exactly! I feel like, especially because I'm like READING, YOU ARE AWESOME (seriously, I do think this whilst reading!) the people I want to hang with have to be pretty special to drag me away from books and tv and shit! I just don't really get the whole competitive girl thing. It makes me feel icky.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-1236387276038081622012-09-10T14:40:47.782+01:002012-09-10T14:40:47.782+01:00BUT would you actively talk about how much you dis...BUT would you actively talk about how much you dislike them after pretending to be BFFs for the evening?Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456600806188531803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-27294756205475503682012-09-10T14:38:33.994+01:002012-09-10T14:38:33.994+01:00Er...ahem. I have some friends that I like doing a...Er...ahem. I have some friends that I like doing a couple things with, but whom I wouldn't trust with confidences. They're more hanging out buddies.Reading Rambohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12614467198216577755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-13768826255266389102012-09-10T14:24:01.494+01:002012-09-10T14:24:01.494+01:00Also I forgot to mention YAY Mean Girls reference ...Also I forgot to mention YAY Mean Girls reference and when are we all going to watch that, hmm???Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456600806188531803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-30795658254033642542012-09-10T14:21:36.154+01:002012-09-10T14:21:36.154+01:00I don't understand this. I like my friends. Wh...I don't understand this. I like my friends. Why would you spends loads of time with people you didn't like (by choice. being forced to interact with people you don't like is a dif story). Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16456600806188531803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-33465126445289672522012-09-10T14:15:38.052+01:002012-09-10T14:15:38.052+01:00I agree with you. I'm friends with my friends ...I agree with you. I'm friends with my friends because I want to see them. Of course, they can bug me sometimes, but it's not because they're bad people or I dislike them, it's because we're humans, and humans tend to get on each others' nerves. <br /><br />And that scene in Julie and Julia? WTF. Why do you know these people at all?!<br /><br />That being said, I do also feel a lot of pressure to be nice to women I don't particularly like. For example, since I've just started this grad program, I've met a lot of new people and tend to go out with a large group of folks who I don't necessarily select. There are some girls in this group who I really don't like that much, and yet I feel like I have to be extra nice to them because they seem to like me. It ends up feeling very fake and uncomfortable. I wonder if men feel this pressure too. Mandyhttp://ohdizzle.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6275165298547340568.post-19483313966658998312012-09-10T10:26:47.185+01:002012-09-10T10:26:47.185+01:00I've never understood this. I have a couple of...I've never understood this. I have a couple of friends that I've known my entire life, who maybe we don't have as much in common as we used to and one in particular who can be quite irritating, but she can also be awesome. And we have a lot of shared experience so we have those stupid little private jokes from when we were eight that nobody else gets. I have been known to occassionally bitch but usually just when I'm in a bad mood anyway - I'm not very good at controlling anger, it tends to just get out and be directed at whatever person is nearest rather than whoever it's actually about. But yeah, if you don't like somebody, don't spend time with them. It's not that difficult. I just find it weird that people would want to waste their time on people they don't really like.. :-/anarmchairbytheseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14593618746095559894noreply@blogger.com